| Tonight I'm going out with two extremely | | | | audience, especially in a mixed group, |
| impressive ladies who I am introducing to one | | | | professionalism is the best bet.One rule of thumb: |
| another. They are both GORGEOUS, in their mid | | | | Don't flirt at the office. Okay, if you do flirt, then |
| 20s and both incredibly intelligent. One is divorced | | | | just don't flirt in front of other women. That |
| with kids and is probably one of the most flawless | | | | brings up insecurity in other women. And DON"T |
| and incredibly beautiful women I've ever met, the | | | | flirt with another woman's man when she's there. |
| other is single and possibly one of the most | | | | That is the ULTIMATE "no no"!So I have two |
| fashionable and forward thinking women I've ever | | | | challenges here for ladies. If you are beautiful and |
| met.One of these ladies I've been coaching for | | | | in business A) Be better than everyone else at |
| over a year, the other is a new client. I thought | | | | your job. Come early, stay late and be committed |
| that they would really enjoy each other because | | | | to your company. If people are going to be talking |
| they are both serious about their work, both | | | | about you (and they will) at least they won't be |
| make a lot of money, are very smart and they | | | | able to say that you don't work hard. You know |
| have another few things in common.They | | | | that they'll be saying things like that you "slept |
| FLIRT!Okay, let me get one thing straight. Neither | | | | your way to the top" and that can be damaging |
| of them HAS to flirt. Men would fall all over either | | | | to your reputation. So be the #1 employee in |
| of them just because of their beauty alone. But | | | | your department and do whatever you can do |
| they both have very outgoing personalities and | | | | education wise to stay on top.Next, be a |
| are charming in addition to being smart. They also | | | | supporter to other women. You are a target for |
| have ANOTHER thing in common.WOMEN | | | | hatred, jealousy and other women's insecurity. |
| DESPISE THEM.I know! Can you believe it!? | | | | Whatever you can do to pull women together or |
| Women hate both of these ladies because of | | | | serving them will help women get over your |
| their beauty and their talent. Not only do women | | | | major issue of beauty. If you are a mom and |
| despise them but they are torturous to them! | | | | don't have time to throw networking get |
| They talk behind their backs, they spread rumors | | | | "togethers", then at least make sure you have a |
| and they treat them mean.CAT FIGHT, CAT | | | | few female friends in your back pocket to |
| FIGHT.. I can just hear all of you guys now! Oh | | | | commiserate with. I've encouraged these women |
| PLEASE! I know enough about you guys to know | | | | to get on a sports team so they aren't seen as |
| that you have envy too, but you just handle it | | | | the "pretty and successful" ones there. They can |
| differently.. like try to injure each other on the | | | | be sweating it out looking gross like everyone |
| basketball court, or kill each other on the golf | | | | else."Although I bet these two women don't |
| course. Okay, maybe not as much, but men are | | | | sweat. They're too perfect. You should see them, |
| naturally competitive and it drives you harder. You | | | | I bet they never have ANY problems.. I have had |
| often feel you have control over your destiny | | | | to work SO much harder than them and I never |
| since you are often judging yourself on your | | | | had anyone coaching me when I was THEIR age. |
| income.Women? We get judged on our looks first, | | | | Hmmmmph!"Ooopss!! I guess I even have to |
| and THEN everything else.The thing about both of | | | | catch myself at times. I remind myself that we |
| these women is that they are some of the nicest | | | | are all on our own paths and that while beauty |
| people I know. They are fun and lively and smart. | | | | and money may make life a bit easier, they can |
| They are ambitious and they are interesting to | | | | make it a bit more challenging too.And you know |
| talk to. I have enjoyed getting to know both of | | | | I LLLLLLOOOOOOVVVVVVVVVE a challenge!For |
| them very much and I just know that if women | | | | more information: or Web: Gardner, The Charisma |
| would take some time to get to know them, | | | | Coach! is an Executive Communications Consultant |
| they'd enjoy their company. But instead, the | | | | and Trainer. She works with, coaches and trains |
| women demean themselves by displaying raging | | | | individuals, sales teams, executives, and celebrities. |
| jealousy and use up all of their energy in a | | | | She owned and operated one of the first |
| negative way... instead of being productive.Okay, | | | | coaching institutions on the east coast, CCI, in |
| let me address the fact that they flirt. What I've | | | | NYC, Philly and NJ. Mary has appeared on ABC's |
| counseled at least one of the ladies to do is to be | | | | 20/20 and has self published a book on public |
| personable and friendly when work isn't the | | | | speaking. Mary is married to Sway and is mommy |
| primary focus, but when presenting to an | | | | to Jeremy 5, and lives in Orlando, FL. |