| Tonight I'm going out with two extremely | | | | professionalism is the best bet.One rule of |
| impressive ladies who I am introducing to one | | | | thumb: Don't flirt at the office. Okay, if |
| another. They are both GORGEOUS, in their mid | | | | you do flirt, then just don't flirt in front |
| 20s and both incredibly intelligent. One is | | | | of other women. That brings up insecurity in |
| divorced with kids and is probably one of the | | | | other women. And DON"T flirt with another |
| most flawless and incredibly beautiful women | | | | woman's man when she's there. That is the |
| I've ever met, the other is single and | | | | ULTIMATE "no no"!So I have two challenges |
| possibly one of the most fashionable and | | | | here for ladies. If you are beautiful and in |
| forward thinking women I've ever met.One of | | | | business A) Be better than everyone else at |
| these ladies I've been coaching for over a | | | | your job. Come early, stay late and be |
| year, the other is a new client. I thought | | | | committed to your company. If people are |
| that they would really enjoy each other | | | | going to be talking about you (and they will) |
| because they are both serious about their | | | | at least they won't be able to say that you |
| work, both make a lot of money, are very | | | | don't work hard. You know that they'll be |
| smart and they have another few things in | | | | saying things like that you "slept your way |
| common.They FLIRT!Okay, let me get one thing | | | | to the top" and that can be damaging to your |
| straight. Neither of them HAS to flirt. Men | | | | reputation. So be the #1 employee in your |
| would fall all over either of them just | | | | department and do whatever you can do |
| because of their beauty alone. But they both | | | | education wise to stay on top.Next, be a |
| have very outgoing personalities and are | | | | supporter to other women. You are a target |
| charming in addition to being smart. They | | | | for hatred, jealousy and other women's |
| also have ANOTHER thing in common.WOMEN | | | | insecurity. Whatever you can do to pull women |
| DESPISE THEM.I know! Can you believe it!? | | | | together or serving them will help women get |
| Women hate both of these ladies because of | | | | over your major issue of beauty. If you are a |
| their beauty and their talent. Not only do | | | | mom and don't have time to throw networking |
| women despise them but they are torturous to | | | | get "togethers", then at least make sure you |
| them! They talk behind their backs, they | | | | have a few female friends in your back pocket |
| spread rumors and they treat them mean.CAT | | | | to commiserate with. I've encouraged these |
| FIGHT, CAT FIGHT.. I can just hear all of you | | | | women to get on a sports team so they aren't |
| guys now! Oh PLEASE! I know enough about you | | | | seen as the "pretty and successful" ones |
| guys to know that you have envy too, but you | | | | there. They can be sweating it out looking |
| just handle it differently.. like try to | | | | gross like everyone else."Although I bet |
| injure each other on the basketball court, or | | | | these two women don't sweat. They're too |
| kill each other on the golf course. Okay, | | | | perfect. You should see them, I bet they |
| maybe not as much, but men are naturally | | | | never have ANY problems.. I have had to work |
| competitive and it drives you harder. You | | | | SO much harder than them and I never had |
| often feel you have control over your destiny | | | | anyone coaching me when I was THEIR age. |
| since you are often judging yourself on your | | | | Hmmmmph!"Ooopss!! I guess I even have to |
| income.Women? We get judged on our looks | | | | catch myself at times. I remind myself that |
| first, and THEN everything else.The thing | | | | we are all on our own paths and that while |
| about both of these women is that they are | | | | beauty and money may make life a bit easier, |
| some of the nicest people I know. They are | | | | they can make it a bit more challenging |
| fun and lively and smart. They are ambitious | | | | too.And you know I LLLLLLOOOOOOVVVVVVVVVE a |
| and they are interesting to talk to. I have | | | | challenge!For more information: or Web: |
| enjoyed getting to know both of them very | | | | Gardner, The Charisma Coach! is an Executive |
| much and I just know that if women would take | | | | Communications Consultant and Trainer. She |
| some time to get to know them, they'd enjoy | | | | works with, coaches and trains individuals, |
| their company. But instead, the women demean | | | | sales teams, executives, and celebrities. |
| themselves by displaying raging jealousy and | | | | She owned and operated one of the first |
| use up all of their energy in a negative | | | | coaching institutions on the east coast, CCI, |
| way... instead of being productive.Okay, let | | | | in NYC, Philly and NJ. Mary has appeared on |
| me address the fact that they flirt. What | | | | ABC's 20/20 and has self published a book on |
| I've counseled at least one of the ladies to | | | | public speaking. Mary is married to Sway |
| do is to be personable and friendly when work | | | | and is mommy to Jeremy 5, and lives in |
| isn't the primary focus, but when presenting | | | | Orlando, FL. |
| to an audience, especially in a mixed group, | | | | |