| We all have to deal with critical people
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| | of dwelling on the negative comment focus
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| at times. You know the type - the person
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| | on the gifts, talents and strengths that
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| who can spot a flaw from across the room,
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| | you possess.
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| gives unsolicited advice, frequently
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| | 5. Be careful about what you share with
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| complains and passes judgment, is
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| | the critical person
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| negative and seems impossible to please.
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| | It's not always wise to share personal or
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| We can all be critical. Every day, we
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| | important information with a critic about
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| literally critique everything that goes
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| | yourself or anyone else. Providing such
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| on around us consciously and
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| | information is asking for trouble because
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| unconsciously. Unfortunately, some people
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| | critical people often take things out of
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| tend to verbalize the thoughts many of us
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| | context, misinterpret or exaggerate
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| have learned to keep to ourselves. When
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| | information and place a negative spin on
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| things don't go our way or we're in a bad
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| | ideas or opinions. Learn how to discern
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| mood it is easy to become critical. It's
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| | what you should and should not reveal.
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| true, miserable people prefer miserable
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| | When in doubt, don't share.
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| company. Critical people actually feel
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| | 6. Don't join in on criticizing others
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| better around others who share the same
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| | It can be easy to fall into the trap of
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| negative attitudes. Before we spend time
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| | criticizing others when you're around a
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| learning how to cope with other people's
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| | critical person. Joining in on the
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| critical traits let's make sure we have
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| | criticism only serves to legitimize the
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| our own well under control.
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| | behavior in the mind of the critic, and
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| It can be quite challenging to get along
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| | the transition into gossip is close
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| with a critic, especially when we live,
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| | behind. Today the criticism is about
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| work or attend church with them. Here are
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| | someone else - tomorrow it could be
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| 10 tips to help you get along better with
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| | directed toward you.
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| critical people.
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| | 7. Limit the amount of time you spend
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| 1. Understand what motivates people to be
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| | with critical people
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| critical
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| | It may be very appropriate to limit the
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| Hurting people hurt people. Most critics
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| | amount of time you spend with a critic.
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| were criticized themselves as children
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| | This, of course, can be difficult if they
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| and did not develop the sense of security
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| | happen to be your spouse, parent or boss.
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| and healthy identity that can come from
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| | However, it may be in your best interest
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| positive nurturing. They tend to have a
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| | to let the person know that your level of
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| low opinion of themselves and
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| | interaction with them will be based, in
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| consequently feel best (although often
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| | part, on their willingness to communicate
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| frustrated) when attempting to achieve
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| | with you in a constructive and
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| the unrealistic standards they set for
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| | appropriate manner. If the critic is your
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| themselves and others. Critics are often
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| | spouse you may benefit from consulting
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| motivated by the need to feel better
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| | with a professional marriage counselor.
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| about themselves by putting other people
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| | 8. Control your response to critical
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| down. Understanding their motivation can
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| | people
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| help us to develop empathy and compassion
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| | Pay close attention to how you respond to
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| - two qualities that will help you get
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| | criticism. If you tend to react with
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| along with critical people.
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| | anger, hurt or intimidation, you will
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| 2. Don't throw the baby out with the bath
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| | encourage the critical behavior. Critical
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| water
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| | people are often motivated to behave the
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| Although critical people often lack
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| | way they do because of the response they
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| diplomacy and tact, they also tend to be
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| | trigger in others. When you learn to not
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| able to size up people and situations
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| | overreact, the critic will likely move on
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| accurately. You may be tempted to
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| | to someone who will.
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| discount what you hear, but listen
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| | 9. Try to understand the needs of the
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| carefully to what they say because there
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| | critical person
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| is often valuable information underneath
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| | The emotional "gas tank" of a critical
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| the sharp edges of the message.
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| | person is often very low. Criticism is
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| 3. Be willing to confront your critic
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| | sometimes an outward expression of an
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| It is not easy to confront interpersonal
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| | inward need - usually the need to feel
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| problems, but it is typically the best
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| | worthwhile and significant. It is
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| approach. Be willing to tell the critic
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| | surprising how a sincere compliment,
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| in your life how you feel about the way
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| | congratulations or demonstration of care
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| they interact with you. This won't
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| | and concern can improve your
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| guarantee change, however, by expressing
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| | relationship. People with full emotional
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| your thoughts and feelings you are in a
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| | tanks are the least likely to mistreat
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| better position to manage your own
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| | others.
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| emotions and behaviors. Emotional
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| | 10. Maintain realistic expectations
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| expression will decrease your chances of
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| | Critical people don't change overnight.
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| growing embittered, and consequently,
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| | Even if they are making positive
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| doing or saying something you'll regret.
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| | progress, they are likely to revert back
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| 4. Focus on the truth not on the
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| | to their old ways from time to time,
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| criticism
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| | especially under stress. Realistic
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| If someone puts you down, fight the
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| | expectations will help guide your
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| temptation to dwell on the criticism. If
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| | interactions and will likely result in a
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| there is something you can learn from the
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| | healthier relationship.
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| message, do so, but then move on. Instead
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