| Conflict happens. It starts with the problem of | | | | when you are not in situation. |
| pulling the covers off and stepping out of bed. So | | | | Learn what sparks you and why you are |
| far so good. You walk the dog, send the kids off | | | | triggered. Get down to the source. A coach is an |
| to school, settle into work, then something | | | | excellent resource to walk you through the |
| happens. (You knew it would, right?) | | | | process. Denying your intentions is like building a |
| Challenges can come from anywhere. A missed | | | | house without a foundation. Educate yourself |
| appointment causes a person to miss a deadline. | | | | other ways to handle it. Once you are casual |
| A employee (maybe even you!) promises more | | | | interactions. You probably would not take |
| than your company could deliver. A customer | | | | Introduction to Astrophysics and then offer your |
| finds a defect in one of your widgets that needs | | | | services as an expert. By using your new skills |
| redesigning right away. | | | | often when the critical situation develops, you will |
| We all know that setbacks are going to occur in | | | | be better able to stay balanced and easily resolve |
| business. Setbacks that strain relations between | | | | the problem. |
| you and your friends. Setbacks that can cause | | | | In the beginning of the foray, step back. Get in |
| anger and mistrust to accumulate. Will this mean | | | | touch with your feelings, body language and tone |
| the end of a once great relationship? | | | | of voice. A angry face, perspiring, usually takes |
| Not necessarily, when strains rise between you | | | | for your physiological flooding to subside. |
| and a prospect, it may be time for a tough | | | | Beware of venting as a regular strategy. While it |
| conversation. It is time to get authentic and | | | | is a common position that venting makes people |
| address the difficulty that is causing trouble. But | | | | feel better and aids getting the emotional noise |
| how do you keep a tough conversation from | | | | out of the way, research suggests that if you |
| becoming a full-scale feud that forever damages | | | | use this practice over and over, the opposite |
| relations with your client? | | | | effect occurs. While it may feel good in the |
| Here are 4 ideas to get you through the difficult | | | | moment, venting anger as your regular method |
| conversations that can make or break your | | | | may make you more angry and push your body |
| business. Interpersonal obstacles or your hot | | | | and brain into a more intense state of anxiety or |
| buttons as they are called, are the emotional | | | | rage. |
| responses set off by the words or actions of | | | | God's Word tells us in Proverbs 26:4,5 says, the |
| others during ugly encounters. You feel walled in | | | | fool must be answered but not in a foolish |
| during conflict when you think the other person's | | | | manner. Studies show that anger is a problem for |
| comments or actions as threatening to your | | | | every Christian. Sinful anger constitutes roughly 90 |
| identity in some way. Common obstacles include | | | | percent of all counseling issues . While it is not |
| real or perceived confrontations to your | | | | wrong to act in anger since the design of the |
| character, virtue, privilege, and sense of belonging. | | | | emotion is to motivate. It is wrong if it is |
| Your hot buttons can trip you up in argument | | | | incorrectly. It must be used glorify God. After all, |
| because they cause you to misrepresent, switch | | | | anger is a compelling stimulus that God built into |
| off, criticize, or beat yourself up. They also trigger | | | | man with the intent of moving him to Biblical |
| a set of emotional responses that may contribute | | | | action. Rage and anger are two separate |
| to intensification. | | | | emotions. Anger is appropriate in communication |
| When you are set off, your brain may endure | | | | of feelings in response to someones behavior. |
| what is said to be a neural hijacking. The brain | | | | Jesus got angry. Mark tells us that Jesus |
| concludes a threat, proclaims an emergency and | | | | addressed the Pharisees in anger (3:5). John writes |
| moves into action. This taking over occurs so fast | | | | to us of Jesus driving out the moneychangers |
| that the conscious, thinking portion of the brain | | | | from the house of God (2:17). God, Himself is |
| does not yet fully understand what is happening. | | | | angry with the wicked everyday (Psalm 7:11). |
| So, you are going ahead blindly. While saying he | | | | To presuppose anger as wrong without |
| rubs me the wrong way suggests it is the other | | | | qualification constitutes a careless and irresponsible |
| persons duty to stop doing it, only you can handle | | | | use of God's word. Our emotional mix is from |
| your own sparks. Everyone's bait is a little | | | | God. All of our emotions when used properly are |
| different, so what triggers me may not spark | | | | blessed. Emotions become harmful when we fail |
| you. This is why blaming others for trapping you | | | | to evoke them in harmony with Biblical limitations |
| is not very positive. You waste energy expecting | | | | and structures. Scripture also teaches us to be |
| them to change how they respond, when only | | | | angry AND sin not! proper anger can become |
| you can change your own responses. | | | | wrong anger in two ways. By the ventilation of |
| How do you avoid a trap instead of point fingers? | | | | anger and by the internalizing anger. That is by |
| Here are some effective approaches for | | | | blowing up and clamming up. The Biblical way to |
| acknowledging, noticing, and monitoring conflict | | | | handle anger is to focus it on the issue not |
| prompts. Start with examining your motives. | | | | toward the person. Deal with it as soon as |
| Keeping your balance during conflict is in a large | | | | possible, and rebuild the relationship. Putting the |
| part dependent upon the examining effort you do | | | | other before yourself. |